Get out of the Ditch

IMG_5541I have a tendency to get sidetracked. I blame it on my undiagnosed ADD (which my fiance -wow-it-feels-weird-saying-that-still- strongly denies exists), but sometimes I think I may just be trying to avoid overwhelming situations. That’s why my laundry usually piles up, my car is always dirty, and I just can’t seem to decide on what I thought would be the easiest wedding decision- colors. Things that I manage to keep under control don’t bother me. For example- dishes, which I never let pile up, therefore they never stress me out. But put too many options in front of me or let me get behind on something, and I will instantaneously freeze up or avoid it all together.

Distractions can be costly. Take exhibit A: the shocking picture of my dad’s old 1987 Nissan Sentra in a ditch… Just wait… it gets better. Yes, I can laugh my hind end off about it now. In fact I can’t look at the picture without chuckling (odd reaction, I know), but only because it’s been 11 years since the incident occurred. I was 15 years old and had my learner’s permit. My dad was in the passenger seat, and we had just stopped to get gas at a small convenience store. It was dark. I don’t remember where we were heading.. I just know it was dark. I still don’t like driving in the dark. I pulled off from the gas pump and was heading towards the exit… Except I missed the exit completely. That’s right… I ran straight into the ditch. Face first, pointed straight up and down, I hollered at my dad, “Dad! Did I just wreck the car!?”. My eyes were forced shut and I couldn’t break myself to open them. “UM…Yea, baby, I’d say you did. Haha!”.

Ok, I’m sure you’re wondering where I’m headed with this. I just feel like (I/we/you) tend to let distractions prevent us from allowing us to see the provisions God has made for us. You see, the reason I ran straight into the sneaky ditch that jumped out of nowhere, was because my focus was off. Instead of making it to the ramp provided for exiting the gas station, I was jumping the gun, looking both ways on the road I was heading towards. But the time had not come for that yet. At that point I should have been focused on what I was driving towards until I stopped. THEN I could have looked both ways. My focus was on getting OUT of the parking lot before I was capable. I was too concerned about pulling out before traffic approached, that I missed the ramp that was there to guide me out.

Have you ever had a moment where your anticipation caused you to miss an opportunity? Sometimes I feel like I get to carried away in the “just working through to Friday” routine. I rush through the week, only for the weekend to fly by. When I actually take a moment to enjoy every day, I get so much more out of life.

But I don’t just believe we should just stop and smell the roses for our enjoyment, we should look for lessons that God is showing us. Have you ever thought about the fact that you are experiencing exactly what God wants you to experience? Whether it’s a consequence to an action, or a challenge you’re facing to strengthen your faith- God has placed you there. These experiences are intended to help us be better- yet more humble, stronger- yet kinder, persistent- yet passive.

So get out of the ditch. Look for the lesson. Grow in your faith. And share your experience. You are here for a purpose- Live it!

Love you guys, and hope you are having an awesome 2015 so far!

,Kaila

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2014 so far…

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It seems like everything has been crazy since my last blog post. On January 14th I posted my Clothes Challenge, and then BAM! Life happened.

On January 17th a deer hit my faithful little 2003 Honda Civic (yes it hit ME, not the other way around), taking out the front drivers’ side headlight and then ever so gracefully skimming down the entire drivers side of my car . It was dark, and I was alone. So, needless to say I was in a little bit of shock. So much so, that I continued to drive thinking the car was fine! Then, as the shock wore off, I noticed I could hear wind coming through the door. At the time, I thought there was a big gaping hole in the side of my car, which urged me to pull over. Later I discovered it was simply where the window seal had been torn off, and air was blowing in through the gap. 😛

I’ll save you the long drawn out story and just give you a few fun(ny) facts before skipping to the point of this whole story!

1. I have Geico, and my adjuster’s name is Mike…. I’ve been DYING to call him on a Wednesday and say “Hey MIKE! MIKE! Guess what day it is, Mike!” But I have refrained….

2. Apparently, I have really good rental insurance. When I went into Enterprise to pick up a car, it wasn’t ready due to some confusion. The employee that helped us (We’ll call him D, to protect his identity) said that he would have something ready for me that day by 12, and that I had really good insurance so he would find me something nice. I sarcastically replied “Oh you know, Ferrari, Lamborghini, whatever.. I’m not picky!”. He politely laughed at my corny joke that he probably hears ALL day, and then stated that from time to time they DO get Cadillacs…I return to Enterprise at 12 (Props to my girl, Becky!) and they give me this:

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There couldn’t be anything more unlike my Honda than this 2014 Cadillac ATS. It has a screen bigger than my kindle fire that has Bluetooth, Pandora, Onstar.. You name it. And I still can’t find the CD player 2 weeks later. I did find a secret compartment the other day, though. Oh yea it has more usb ports than it does seats. Don’t stick your iPhone 5 in the compartment behind the middle console, or it might get stuck (Haha! Love ya, Becky!).

My car wasn’t totaled, thankfully, and my deductible is only $100 since it was an “act of nature”. Geico has been GREAT (and no, I’m not getting paid to say that). So I guess you could say it all worked out. Though, I never really worried about it, and here’s why:

I’ve had my car paid off for about two and a half years now. While most people get “New Car Syndrome” before the ink on their check from the final payment dries, it took a while for me. See, I was very blessed with my car. It’s never given me any problems in almost 7 years. It’s made it through 7 Disney World trips (about 3,500 out of the 270,000 miles). In short, we’ve taken care of it, and it’s returned the favor. Inevitably, the syndrome came, and I began to pray about it, as I do most BIG decisions. I prayed that God would lead me to the right car, and that I would not have to go into much debt to buy it. However, God’s answer was “Wait”.. Then pressure came from others who said “You can afford it, so go for it” or “Get a good car, you deserve it!”. I would reluctantly explain that it wasn’t time, although I didn’t understand why. And then January 17th came, and I realized the deer was why it wasn’t time. Had I bought a nice new car when I wanted it, THAT car would have been damaged and wrecked, sitting in my front yard.

Obviously, this was a lesson in trust, but some of the best lessons from God are followed up with confirmation. During my Bible reading/study time, I came across this verse that explains why trusting God is in our best interest.:

Ecclesiastes 3:1, 11-14

“There is an occasion for everything, and a time for every activity under heaven… He has made everything appropriate in its time. He has also put eternity in their hearts, but man cannot discover the work God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for them than to rejoice and enjoy the good life.  It is also the gift of God whenever anyone eats, drinks, and enjoys all his efforts. I know that all God does will last forever; there is no adding to it or taking from it. God works so that people will be in awe of Him”

God knows what you will be facing before the situation exists. He knows what you want and what you need. My favorite part of the verse is where it says ” I know all that God does will last forever”. Why would you not want His opinion in everything? When you trust God, the weight on your shoulders is lifted and you can find peace in knowing that He is in control.

This is hard to understand when dealing with a death in the family, which I also recently dealt with.

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I may not have been related to Granny Pendley biologically or by marriage, but anyone who associated themselves with her felt a family connection. I lost count of how many people at the viewing and funeral said she was like a mother to them. She was truly one in a million, one of the most self-less people I have ever met. She would do anything for everybody, and loved her family and the Lord so much!

Mamie Lou Pendley passed away on Sunday, January 26th 2014, which was also my sisters 21st birthday. Ironically, verse 2 in Ecclesiastes continues talking about time by saying “A time to give birth, and a time to die”. For whatever reason, this verse brought me peace from knowing that God took her in His time. And though it may seem too soon to us, His plan is greater than we could ever imagine. We can’t fathom what kind of struggle she would have gone through if our prayers had kept her on earth.

As we persevered through the southern “snowmageddon” this week, and patiently pushed out funeral arrangements until the ice melted, I tried to find a message in the madness. I feel like God was trying to again tell me that He was in control, and He knew what was best for us. At times it was discouraging having to draw out the process, but at that same time, it gave her family time to rest and remember. Not only did they get 2-3 days of bereavement, but most received 2 snow days additionally.

It’s been a while since we’ve had any amount of snow, but I have to say I like it’s infrequency! Makes it all the more special…

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Ok, so this is an abnormally long post and I appreciate you hanging in here with me! Let me wrap this up by making my BIG announcement! Speaking about “time”, I have been praying about the direction of this blog, and I feel led to take it another step further by purchasing my own domain! Basically I will no longer have a url with .wordpress.com anymore. BUT, before I do so, I want to change the name. This is something that I will carry for a long time and I want to have something more broad and catchy. I’ve not yet decided what it will be but I am open to suggestions! Whatever it ends up being, I want to continue striving to meet the standards I established when God gave me the opportunity to share my faith through a blog platform.

  1. That I put HIM first, and give Him all the glory, no matter how this journey turns out.
  2. That I never let it become a “rant” outlet or anything negative
  3. That I always make decisions through prayer and His guidance

Your prayers appreciated while I make this transition, and for the family/friends of Granny Pendley.

I’ll be posting my January Five Favorites soon followed by a spring fashion prediction, so stay tuned!

God Bless,

Kaila